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Posted by Dalida Turkovic - November 9th, 2009
“Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understands, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.” Virginia Satir
Are you a human being living humanely?
Who are you when you are creative, take risks, live your competences fully?
How do you feel in your body? When was the last time you appreciated yourself for who you are?
What are your strengths? How do you behave when you live from the perspective of your strengths?
What are your weaknesses? What information or skills do you need to obtain in order to minimize effect of your weaknesses at your work and personal life?
To find out about your VIA Signatures Strengths go to http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/questionnaires.aspx and register. This interesting questionnaire takes about 40 minutes to do and gives insights how to build your life based on strengths. You can also purchase a book “Now Discover Your Strengths” by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton or take their http://www.strengthsfinder.com/113647/Homepage.aspx online test.
“Success is achieved by developing our strengths, not by eliminating our weaknesses” Marilyn vos Savant
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - November 6th, 2009
When your power of perception penetrates every corner, are you capable of knowing nothing? Laozi
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - November 4th, 2009
While searching for inspiration I found a quote from Stacey Charter. I have seen her quotes before but never really knew who she was. So I Googled her and found a site where somebody curious asked the same question: Who is Stacey Charter? Right below the question there was a response:
Hi I am Stacey Charter. Not famous though my quotes end up in places that say I’m famous. Cancer Survivor, divorce survivor, attack survivor and all around positive person. Still learning to love myself 100% and thrilled that others have discovered the little pieces of myself I’ve placed on line. And yes – It’s really me and yes I really did write those quotes. And someday I’d love to write a book filled with quotes and stories and tears and laughter. Thanks for asking! staceycharter@yahoo.com
Stacey, thank you for the inspiration!
” Life is filled with so many exciting twists and turns. Hop off the straight and narrow whenever you can and take the winding paths. Experience the exhilaration of the view from the edge. Because the moments spent there, that take your breath away, make you feel truly alive.” Stacey Charter
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - November 2nd, 2009
The cure for boredom is curiosity. There is no cure for curiosity. ~Dorothy Parker
Did you know that dopamine regulates feelings of enjoyment and reinforces motivation to proactively perform activities? It’s functions also include important roles in behavior and cognition, voluntary movement, motivation and reward, sleep, mood, attention and learning. Simply, the more dopamine our brain produces the faster we learn. Until last week, dopamine was connected with the pleasure system of the brain – the belief was that the more pleasure we experience, the more dopamine brain produces. The latest research in Positive Psychology reveals that dopamine is actually a byproduct of curiosity and the pleasure kicks in only if there is an element of curiosity involved. Do you wonder why that is so?
Enjoy exploring!
Millions saw the apple fall, but Newton asked why. Bernard Baruch
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - October 29th, 2009
Studies showed that individuals who had been isolated from their familiar social and cultural environment, became neurotic. This shows that when those individuals had no object to identify their darker emotions with, they began to see these things in themselves that which they refused to recognize before, and were unaware of why they appeared and how to cope. Lilli, 1956; Grunebaum, 1960; Heran, 1953
What/Who do you identify with? Your job? Your family? Your country? Your car, friends, pets?
Who would you be on a deserted island? What would happen to your identity if you were in jail?
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
Dr. Seuss
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 28th, 2009
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. ~Anatole France
Regardless of how aware I am about the need for change there is a process, often so painful that keeps pulling me back to what is known and therefore safe despite the fact that it doesn’t serve me anymore. As I remain in the realm of familiarity I become increasingly stressed and emotions take over preventing the smooth transition in the change process. Why?
Every change has its emotional backstage and we tend to go through emotional cycle of grief, anger, bargaining and depression until we are ready to accept the need for change as a positive solution to our problem (Kubler Ross transition (grief) cycle. Originally titled ‘The 5 Stages of Receiving Catastrophic News’)
There is no time limit to how long each cycle lasts; it is highly individual and often related to the scale of change. Recently my bicycle was stolen and I was spinning with emotions as grief kicked in (What will I do without my bike? It was a nice one! Oh, I loved that bike!). The more I grieved the more powerless I felt so anger took over (Petty thieves! Actually I used much stronger word but don’t find it appropriate to share). So I decided to call police and report the stolen bicycle and despite the fact that I was empowered for doing something about it I felt like I was trying to convince police that they absolutely had to find the way to retrieve the missing property. After I heard polite: ‘We cannot guarantee anything’ I sulked into depression about not being mobile and how unfair life was. At the last stage, when acceptance sneaked into my neocortex I finally felt liberated and ready to move on. THE bicycle was not there anymore but I could get another one, or maybe rent a car and go out of town on weekends with dogs… Stolen bike suddenly became an opportunity for embracing change and living new experiences.
Contemplation:
Think of the most recent change you’ve been through. On the scale from 0 (no emotion) – 7 (strong emotion) rate how you felt when you were in grief, anger, bargaining and depression before you were ready to move on to acceptance. How long did this process last? What would you do differently if you were dealing with the same situation again? What would you do the same?
Our only security is our ability to change. ~John Lilly
