Emotion: Anger – The desire to strike out, to hurt and stop the other one, but with hesitation. We might not strike out.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Do it my way or else;  Don’t even think of it;  Don’t push me around;  Don’t tell me what to do!;  Drop dead!;  F… off!;  F.. you!;  Fat chance;  Get out of my way;  Get even;  I’ll get them;  I’ll kill you!   I’ll never give in;  I’m not doing anything;  If they don’t listen to me I’ll let them go down the tube;  Me do it your way, not on your life;  Not a chance;  Not on your life;  Now you’ll pay;  Out of my way;  Who do they think they are?;  You better do it my way, or else!

Acting

abrasive; abrupt; abusive; aggressive; attacking; barbarous; belligerent; biting; blinded; bloodthirsty; brooding; brusque; brutal; callous; caustic; cold; crazed; cruel; curt; defiant; demanding; deranged; destructive; discourteous; disrespectful; exacting; ferocious; fierce; gruff; harsh; headstrong; heartless; instigating; intimidating; inflexible; invasive; malevolent; maniacal; merciless; nasty; obstinate; offensive; passive-aggressive; petulant; pigheaded; profane; provoking; punishing; pushy; ravaging; rebellious; resistant; rude; ruthless; sarcastic; savage; spiteful; strife; stubborn; talking about others; uncooperative; unyielding; vengeful; vicious;

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional    dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your    emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel agitated, frustrated or vengeful? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was  a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and   watch it  transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you    are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think  those thoughts?

How do you know your way is the right way? Is it absolutely true that getting even is the right thing to do? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t   believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and     get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply     because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“Anger  will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in  the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment  are forgotten.” Buddha

Emotion: Fear – The desire to strike out but not doing so because we think they will hit us harder. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Crisis after crisis;  Disaster’s looming and I’ve got to hide;  I can’t let them find me out;  I don’t want anything to change;  I have to get it right or they’ll kill me;  I have to get them before they get me;  I’m not OK;  I’m confused and don’t know what to do, so I can’t do anything;  I’m not enough;  I’m not safe;  I’m trapped, there is no way out;  It’s closing in around me;  It’s so confusing that I just can’t move;  It’s not safe;  It is safer to stay still and not take any chances;  They’re out to get me;  What if I fail?;  What if I get fired?;  What if I get into trouble?;  What if I make a mistake?;  What if they don’t like me?;  What if. . . ?;  What will they think?;  No use, why try;  No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No way, forget about it;  No way out;  Tomorrow;  What’s the use;  Why bother . . .

Acting

agitated; ambivalent;  apologetic;  chaotic;  confused;  cowering;  cringing;  defensive;  disorderly;  distraught;  distrustful;  disturbed;  embarrassed; evasive;  frenzied;  frozen;  hesitant;  hyper-active;  hyper-focused;  hyper-vigilant;  hysterical;  indecisive;  inhibited;  irrational;  lack of clarity;  meek;  mistrustful;  nervous;  no action;  not trusting;  overwhelmed;  panicky;  paralyzed;  paranoid;  procrastination;  quaking;  scared;  secretive;  self-sabotage;  shady;  sheepish;  shock;  shy;  superstitious;  timid;  traumatized;  treble;  tunnel vision; wishy-washy

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional  dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your  emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel anxious, insecure, unsafe or vulnerable? How  does that feel? If this  feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and  watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you  are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think  those thoughts?

How do you know that you are not OK? Is it absolutely true that  you are not safe? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t  believe this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and   get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply   because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“FEAR is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real” Neale Donald Walsch

Emotion: Grief – the desire for someone to help us because we can’t do anything but we think maybe someone else can – we cry out for that someone to do it.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect) (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Do it for me, I can’t do it myself; i can’t do anything about it; I can’t do it right; I’ll never get it right;  I’ll never recover;  I’m a victim;  I’m useless;  I’m worthless;  It’ll never work;  It’s a dead end;  It’s no use;  It’s too late;  It’s too hard;  Let it wait;  No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No use, why try;  No way, forget about it;  No way out;  Tomorrow;  What’s the use;  Why bother

Acting

acting helpless;  attention seeking;  complaining;  crying;  dramatizing;  flustered;  helping others at your own expense;  hysterical;  martyr;  melancholy;  moping;  morose;  needy;  neglecting self and others;  nostalgia: “the good old days”; putting;  seeking comfort;  self-conscious;  sobbing;  suffering;  wailing;  weeping

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel disappointed, heartbroken, helpless or sad? How  does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? How  does the feeling move in your body – does it start in your chest and  move to your stomach? Where does it go next? Remain with the feeling and  watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?

How do you know that it will never work? Is it absolutely true that you can’t do it right? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and  get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply  because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and  accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“To  spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price  of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness” Erich Fromm

Abundance   appreciative  BALANCE  BEAUTIFUL

belonging childlike  compassion  considerate delight  elated  embracing EMPATHY  ENRICHED EVERYTHING’S OKAY

FRIENDLY  FULLNESS  GENTLE

glowing gracious  harmonious   harmony  intuitive  in tune

JOYFUL  LOVING  MAGNANIMOUS   MELOW

naturalness nothing to change  open playful   radiant RECEPTIVE  SECURE

soft tender understanding warm well-being WONDER

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.