Emotion: Apathy – Desire is dead because it’s no use. We can’t do anything and no one else can help. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt.
According to the law of cause and effect:
Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect) (cause) = Action (effect)
Thinking:
I can’t; I can’t win; I don’t care; I don’t count; I don’t know how; I don’t matter; I give up; I’m doomed; I’m useless; I’m worthless; It’ll never work; It’s a dead end; It’s no use; It’s too late; It’s too hard; Let it wait; No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference; No use, why try; No way, forget about it; No way out; Tomorrow; What’s the use; Why bother
Acting
careless; catatonic; disassociated; defeated; forgetful; giving up; inattentive; indecisive; indifferent; lazy; listless; negative; passive; spaced out; stuck; unfocused; unresponsive; withdrawn
STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself – how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the feeling: where in your body do you feel tired, weak or helpless? How does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? How does the feeling move in your body – does it start in your stomach and move to your chest? Where does it go next? Remain with the feeling and watch it transform.
Challenge: Are your thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?
How do you know that you can’t? Is it absolutely true that you don’t count? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was true?
Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?
When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and accept it.
Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson
Remember:
Emotions reveal the thoughts
Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.
Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.
Meditation, exercise and healthy food help to improve the quality of thinking.
“Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there’s all the difference in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens.” Arthur Gordon