Emotion: Fear – The desire to strike out but not doing so because we think they will hit us harder. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt.
According to the law of cause and effect:
Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)
Thinking:
Crisis after crisis; Disaster’s looming and I’ve got to hide; I can’t let them find me out; I don’t want anything to change; I have to get it right or they’ll kill me; I have to get them before they get me; I’m not OK; I’m confused and don’t know what to do, so I can’t do anything; I’m not enough; I’m not safe; I’m trapped, there is no way out; It’s closing in around me; It’s so confusing that I just can’t move; It’s not safe; It is safer to stay still and not take any chances; They’re out to get me; What if I fail?; What if I get fired?; What if I get into trouble?; What if I make a mistake?; What if they don’t like me?; What if. . . ?; What will they think?; No use, why try; No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference; No way, forget about it; No way out; Tomorrow; What’s the use; Why bother . . .
Acting
agitated; ambivalent; apologetic; chaotic; confused; cowering; cringing; defensive; disorderly; distraught; distrustful; disturbed; embarrassed; evasive; frenzied; frozen; hesitant; hyper-active; hyper-focused; hyper-vigilant; hysterical; indecisive; inhibited; irrational; lack of clarity; meek; mistrustful; nervous; no action; not trusting; overwhelmed; panicky; paralyzed; paranoid; procrastination; quaking; scared; secretive; self-sabotage; shady; sheepish; shock; shy; superstitious; timid; traumatized; treble; tunnel vision; wishy-washy
STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself – how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the feeling: where in your body do you feel anxious, insecure, unsafe or vulnerable? How does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and watch it transform.
Challenge: Are your thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?
How do you know that you are not OK? Is it absolutely true that you are not safe? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was true?
Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?
When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and accept it.
Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson
Remember:
Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.
Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.
Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.
Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.
“FEAR is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real” Neale Donald Walsch