Emotion: Pride – The wish to maintain the status quo. Unwilling to change or move – therefore, the wish to stop others from movement as they might pass us up.
According to the law of cause and effect:
Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)
Thinking:
I’ll just reflect!; How dare you!; I knew that; I know everything; I know; I won’t associate with “those kind” of people; I’ll look like I’m agreeing and to it my way; I’m better than all of them; I’m better than you; I’m in a better place than all of you; I’m not like them; I’m right; I’m smarter than everyone else; I’m the only one who can do it right; I’m the only one who can get it done; I’m the savior/hero; I’m too busy with important matters to have time for you; It’s your fault; Maybe I’ll do it and maybe I won’t; My way is the only way; What do tehy know; What’s wrong with you; Who do they think they are? Why is everyone so incompetent; You don’t belong; You need me to get it done;
Acting
aloof; arrogant; bigoted; blaming others; boastful; bored; closed; complacent; conceited; detached; disrespectful; distant; dogmatic; egotistical; false humility; gloating; hypocritical; indifferent; know it all; narrow minded; never wrong; opinionated; patronizing; pompous; putting others down; remote; sabotage; sanctimonious; self-absorbed; self-centered; self-important; snobbish; spoiled; stoic; stubborn; stuck-up; talking against others; unforgiving; impenetrable; unreadable; unyielding; withdrawn; walk away;
STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself – how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the feeling: where in your body do you feel agitated, frustrated or vengeful? How does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and watch it transform.
Challenge: Are your thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?
How do you know you are better than all of them? Is it absolutely true that you are the only one in the world who can get things done? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was true?
Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?
When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and accept it.
Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson
Remember:
Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.
Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.
Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.
Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.
“A proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course, as long as you’re looking down, you can’t see something that’s above you.” C.S. Lewis