KISS is an acronym that relates to a saying first used by Kelly Johnson, lead engineer at the Lockheed Skunk Works: Keep it simple stupid! You can imagine how this principle can be useful when you are building a plane, managing milions of details.

Use this principle when planning projects or when caught in the web of thoughts. If your mind map of connections that need to be managed exceedes 5 bring KISS into awareness,  play Prince and dance until you are able to shake off all unnecessary details. Ok, dancing may not be your thing, or it may not be appropriate to do it in the office but you get the point: find an activity that energizes you, go for a walk, take a deep breath, meditate! or check our energy balancing instruction videos on the www.small-steps-neijia.com that will help you to get grounded and bring focus into perspective.

“It seems that perfection is reached not when there is nothing left to add, but when there is nothing left to take away” Antoine de Saint Exupéry

Emotion: Pride – The wish to maintain the status quo. Unwilling to change or move – therefore, the wish to stop others from movement as they might pass us up.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

I’ll just reflect!;  How dare you!;  I knew that;  I know everything;  I know;  I won’t associate with “those kind” of people;  I’ll look like I’m agreeing and to it my way;  I’m better than all of them;  I’m better than you;  I’m in a better place than all of you;  I’m not like them;  I’m right;  I’m smarter than everyone else;  I’m the only one who can do it right;  I’m the only one who can get it done;  I’m the savior/hero;  I’m too busy with important matters to have time for you;  It’s your fault;  Maybe I’ll do it and maybe I won’t;  My way is the only way;  What do tehy know;  What’s wrong with you;  Who do they think they are?  Why is everyone so incompetent;  You don’t belong;  You need me to get it done;

Acting

aloof; arrogant; bigoted; blaming others; boastful; bored; closed; complacent; conceited; detached; disrespectful; distant; dogmatic; egotistical; false humility; gloating; hypocritical; indifferent; know it all; narrow minded; never wrong; opinionated; patronizing; pompous; putting others down; remote; sabotage; sanctimonious; self-absorbed; self-centered; self-important; snobbish; spoiled; stoic; stubborn; stuck-up; talking against others; unforgiving; impenetrable; unreadable; unyielding; withdrawn; walk away;

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional     dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your     emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel  agitated, frustrated or vengeful? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was  a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and    watch it  transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you    are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?

How do you know you are better than all of them? Is it absolutely true that you are the only one in the world who can get things done? How do you know? Who would you  be if you didn’t   believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and    get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply    because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and      accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“A  proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course,  as long as you’re looking down, you can’t see something that’s above  you.” C.S. Lewis

Emotion: Anger – The desire to strike out, to hurt and stop the other one, but with hesitation. We might not strike out.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Do it my way or else;  Don’t even think of it;  Don’t push me around;  Don’t tell me what to do!;  Drop dead!;  F… off!;  F.. you!;  Fat chance;  Get out of my way;  Get even;  I’ll get them;  I’ll kill you!   I’ll never give in;  I’m not doing anything;  If they don’t listen to me I’ll let them go down the tube;  Me do it your way, not on your life;  Not a chance;  Not on your life;  Now you’ll pay;  Out of my way;  Who do they think they are?;  You better do it my way, or else!

Acting

abrasive; abrupt; abusive; aggressive; attacking; barbarous; belligerent; biting; blinded; bloodthirsty; brooding; brusque; brutal; callous; caustic; cold; crazed; cruel; curt; defiant; demanding; deranged; destructive; discourteous; disrespectful; exacting; ferocious; fierce; gruff; harsh; headstrong; heartless; instigating; intimidating; inflexible; invasive; malevolent; maniacal; merciless; nasty; obstinate; offensive; passive-aggressive; petulant; pigheaded; profane; provoking; punishing; pushy; ravaging; rebellious; resistant; rude; ruthless; sarcastic; savage; spiteful; strife; stubborn; talking about others; uncooperative; unyielding; vengeful; vicious;

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional    dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your    emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel agitated, frustrated or vengeful? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was  a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and   watch it  transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you    are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think  those thoughts?

How do you know your way is the right way? Is it absolutely true that getting even is the right thing to do? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t   believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and     get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply     because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“Anger  will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in  the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment  are forgotten.” Buddha

Emotion: Lust – The desire for possession – Wanting. The hunger for money – things – people, but with hesitation. We may or may not reach out. There is an underlying sense that we cannot, should not have.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

I want… ;  Do it my way;  Don’t stop;  How can I get it?;  I can’t wait;  I have to…;  I like it this way;  I must do it my way;   I must have it;   I need you;  I need them;  I need…;  I want excitement;  I want it all;  I want it now!;  I want more;  I want to know;  I want to figure it out;  I want to understand;  I’m not satisfied;  I’m starving;  It feels so good;  Look at me;  Me, me, me;   My way is the only way;  There won’t be enough for me;  There isn’t enough

Acting

addictive; attention seeking;  chaotic;  compulsive;  covert;  desperate;  devious;  devouring;  driven;  excessive;  exploitive;  extravagant;  fixated; frantic;  frenzied;  hoarding;  impatient;  inconsiderate;  indecent;  lascivious;  lavish;  lecherous;  lewd;  licentious;  manic;  manipulative;  miserly;  obsessive;  out-of-control;  over indulgent;  over-eating;  panting;  predatory;  pushy;  risque;  ruthless;  seductive;  self-centered;  selfish;  uncooperative;  unruly;  vulgar;  wild;  with abandon

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional   dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your   emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel craving, desire or jealousy ? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and   watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you   are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think   those thoughts?

How do you know there isn’t enough? Is it absolutely true thatyour way is the only way ? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t  believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and    get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply    because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“Society drives people crazy with lust and calls it advertising.” John Lahr

Emotion: Fear – The desire to strike out but not doing so because we think they will hit us harder. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Crisis after crisis;  Disaster’s looming and I’ve got to hide;  I can’t let them find me out;  I don’t want anything to change;  I have to get it right or they’ll kill me;  I have to get them before they get me;  I’m not OK;  I’m confused and don’t know what to do, so I can’t do anything;  I’m not enough;  I’m not safe;  I’m trapped, there is no way out;  It’s closing in around me;  It’s so confusing that I just can’t move;  It’s not safe;  It is safer to stay still and not take any chances;  They’re out to get me;  What if I fail?;  What if I get fired?;  What if I get into trouble?;  What if I make a mistake?;  What if they don’t like me?;  What if. . . ?;  What will they think?;  No use, why try;  No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No way, forget about it;  No way out;  Tomorrow;  What’s the use;  Why bother . . .

Acting

agitated; ambivalent;  apologetic;  chaotic;  confused;  cowering;  cringing;  defensive;  disorderly;  distraught;  distrustful;  disturbed;  embarrassed; evasive;  frenzied;  frozen;  hesitant;  hyper-active;  hyper-focused;  hyper-vigilant;  hysterical;  indecisive;  inhibited;  irrational;  lack of clarity;  meek;  mistrustful;  nervous;  no action;  not trusting;  overwhelmed;  panicky;  paralyzed;  paranoid;  procrastination;  quaking;  scared;  secretive;  self-sabotage;  shady;  sheepish;  shock;  shy;  superstitious;  timid;  traumatized;  treble;  tunnel vision; wishy-washy

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional  dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your  emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel anxious, insecure, unsafe or vulnerable? How  does that feel? If this  feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and  watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you  are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think  those thoughts?

How do you know that you are not OK? Is it absolutely true that  you are not safe? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t  believe this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and   get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply   because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“FEAR is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real” Neale Donald Walsch

Emotion: Grief – the desire for someone to help us because we can’t do anything but we think maybe someone else can – we cry out for that someone to do it.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect) (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Do it for me, I can’t do it myself; i can’t do anything about it; I can’t do it right; I’ll never get it right;  I’ll never recover;  I’m a victim;  I’m useless;  I’m worthless;  It’ll never work;  It’s a dead end;  It’s no use;  It’s too late;  It’s too hard;  Let it wait;  No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No use, why try;  No way, forget about it;  No way out;  Tomorrow;  What’s the use;  Why bother

Acting

acting helpless;  attention seeking;  complaining;  crying;  dramatizing;  flustered;  helping others at your own expense;  hysterical;  martyr;  melancholy;  moping;  morose;  needy;  neglecting self and others;  nostalgia: “the good old days”; putting;  seeking comfort;  self-conscious;  sobbing;  suffering;  wailing;  weeping

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel disappointed, heartbroken, helpless or sad? How  does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? How  does the feeling move in your body – does it start in your chest and  move to your stomach? Where does it go next? Remain with the feeling and  watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?

How do you know that it will never work? Is it absolutely true that you can’t do it right? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and  get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply  because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and  accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“To  spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price  of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness” Erich Fromm

Emotion: Apathy – Desire is dead because it’s no use. We can’t do anything and no one else can help. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect) (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:
I can’t;  I can’t win;   I don’t care;   I don’t count;   I don’t know how;    I don’t matter;   I give up;   I’m doomed;   I’m useless;    I’m worthless;   It’ll never work;   It’s a dead end;   It’s no use;   It’s too late;   It’s too hard;   Let it wait;   No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No use, why try;   No way, forget about it;   No way out;   Tomorrow;  What’s the use;   Why bother

Acting
careless;  catatonic;   disassociated;   defeated;   forgetful;   giving up;   inattentive;   indecisive;   indifferent;   lazy;   listless;   negative;   passive;   spaced out;   stuck;   unfocused;   unresponsive;   withdrawn

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself – how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the feeling: where in your body do you feel tired, weak or helpless? How does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? How does the feeling move in your body – does it start in your stomach and move to your chest? Where does it go next? Remain with the feeling and watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?

How do you know that you can’t? Is it absolutely true that you don’t count? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food help to improve the quality of thinking.

“Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there’s all the difference  in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible  burdens.” Arthur Gordon