Emotion: Lust – The desire for possession – Wanting. The hunger for money – things – people, but with hesitation. We may or may not reach out. There is an underlying sense that we cannot, should not have.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

I want… ;  Do it my way;  Don’t stop;  How can I get it?;  I can’t wait;  I have to…;  I like it this way;  I must do it my way;   I must have it;   I need you;  I need them;  I need…;  I want excitement;  I want it all;  I want it now!;  I want more;  I want to know;  I want to figure it out;  I want to understand;  I’m not satisfied;  I’m starving;  It feels so good;  Look at me;  Me, me, me;   My way is the only way;  There won’t be enough for me;  There isn’t enough

Acting

addictive; attention seeking;  chaotic;  compulsive;  covert;  desperate;  devious;  devouring;  driven;  excessive;  exploitive;  extravagant;  fixated; frantic;  frenzied;  hoarding;  impatient;  inconsiderate;  indecent;  lascivious;  lavish;  lecherous;  lewd;  licentious;  manic;  manipulative;  miserly;  obsessive;  out-of-control;  over indulgent;  over-eating;  panting;  predatory;  pushy;  risque;  ruthless;  seductive;  self-centered;  selfish;  uncooperative;  unruly;  vulgar;  wild;  with abandon

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional   dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your   emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel craving, desire or jealousy ? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and   watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you   are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think   those thoughts?

How do you know there isn’t enough? Is it absolutely true thatyour way is the only way ? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t  believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and    get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply    because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“Society drives people crazy with lust and calls it advertising.” John Lahr

Emotion: Fear – The desire to strike out but not doing so because we think they will hit us harder. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Crisis after crisis;  Disaster’s looming and I’ve got to hide;  I can’t let them find me out;  I don’t want anything to change;  I have to get it right or they’ll kill me;  I have to get them before they get me;  I’m not OK;  I’m confused and don’t know what to do, so I can’t do anything;  I’m not enough;  I’m not safe;  I’m trapped, there is no way out;  It’s closing in around me;  It’s so confusing that I just can’t move;  It’s not safe;  It is safer to stay still and not take any chances;  They’re out to get me;  What if I fail?;  What if I get fired?;  What if I get into trouble?;  What if I make a mistake?;  What if they don’t like me?;  What if. . . ?;  What will they think?;  No use, why try;  No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No way, forget about it;  No way out;  Tomorrow;  What’s the use;  Why bother . . .

Acting

agitated; ambivalent;  apologetic;  chaotic;  confused;  cowering;  cringing;  defensive;  disorderly;  distraught;  distrustful;  disturbed;  embarrassed; evasive;  frenzied;  frozen;  hesitant;  hyper-active;  hyper-focused;  hyper-vigilant;  hysterical;  indecisive;  inhibited;  irrational;  lack of clarity;  meek;  mistrustful;  nervous;  no action;  not trusting;  overwhelmed;  panicky;  paralyzed;  paranoid;  procrastination;  quaking;  scared;  secretive;  self-sabotage;  shady;  sheepish;  shock;  shy;  superstitious;  timid;  traumatized;  treble;  tunnel vision; wishy-washy

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional  dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your  emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel anxious, insecure, unsafe or vulnerable? How  does that feel? If this  feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and  watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you  are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think  those thoughts?

How do you know that you are not OK? Is it absolutely true that  you are not safe? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t  believe this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and   get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply   because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“FEAR is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real” Neale Donald Walsch

Emotion: Grief – the desire for someone to help us because we can’t do anything but we think maybe someone else can – we cry out for that someone to do it.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect) (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Do it for me, I can’t do it myself; i can’t do anything about it; I can’t do it right; I’ll never get it right;  I’ll never recover;  I’m a victim;  I’m useless;  I’m worthless;  It’ll never work;  It’s a dead end;  It’s no use;  It’s too late;  It’s too hard;  Let it wait;  No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No use, why try;  No way, forget about it;  No way out;  Tomorrow;  What’s the use;  Why bother

Acting

acting helpless;  attention seeking;  complaining;  crying;  dramatizing;  flustered;  helping others at your own expense;  hysterical;  martyr;  melancholy;  moping;  morose;  needy;  neglecting self and others;  nostalgia: “the good old days”; putting;  seeking comfort;  self-conscious;  sobbing;  suffering;  wailing;  weeping

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel disappointed, heartbroken, helpless or sad? How  does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? How  does the feeling move in your body – does it start in your chest and  move to your stomach? Where does it go next? Remain with the feeling and  watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?

How do you know that it will never work? Is it absolutely true that you can’t do it right? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and  get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply  because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and  accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“To  spare oneself from grief at all cost can be achieved only at the price  of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness” Erich Fromm

Ageless

Awareness

Being

Boundless

Calm

Centered

Complete

Eternal

Free

Fulfilled

Glowing

Light

Oneness

Perfection

Pure

Quiet

Serenity

Space

Still

Timeless

Tranquility

Unlimited

Whole

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

Abundance   appreciative  BALANCE  BEAUTIFUL

belonging childlike  compassion  considerate delight  elated  embracing EMPATHY  ENRICHED EVERYTHING’S OKAY

FRIENDLY  FULLNESS  GENTLE

glowing gracious  harmonious   harmony  intuitive  in tune

JOYFUL  LOVING  MAGNANIMOUS   MELOW

naturalness nothing to change  open playful   radiant RECEPTIVE  SECURE

soft tender understanding warm well-being WONDER

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

adventurous   ALERT alive   assured aware  CENTERED  certain CHEERFULclarity COMPASSION  COMPETENT       CONFIDENT

CREATIVE   daring decisive  dynamic   eager enthusiastic   exhilaration exploration flexible  FOCUSED  GIVING HAPPY   honorable

HUMOR I CAN   independent initiative  integrity   invincible  loving LUCID MOTIVATED  non-resistant OPEN optimistic

perpective positive  purposeful RECEPTIVE  RESILIENT   resourceful  responsive     secure  self-suficient sharp   spontaneous

strong SUPPORTIVE   TIRELESS VIGOROUS  VISIONARY    willing zest

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

above reproach ALOOF   arrogant  bigoted

BOASTFUL  bored CLEVER CLOSED COMPLACENT

conceited  contemptuous cool  CRITICAL DISDAIN DOGMATIC

FALSE HUMILITY   false virtue   gloating

haughty HOLIER THAN THOU

hypocritical   icy

ISOLATED   JUDGMENTAL

know-it-all

NARROW MINDED

never wrong opinionated    overbearing

PATRONIZING  PIOUS PREJUDICED

presumptuous   righteous  rigid

self absorbed

self satisfied           selfish

SMUG SNOBBISH   SPECIAL

SPOILED

stoic   stubborn  stuck-up

superior UNCOMPROMISING  unfeeling UNFORGIVING

unyielding VAIN

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

abrasive

aggressive

annoyed

argumentative belligerent                     boiling

brooding

caustic

defiant

demanding

destructive disgust

explosive

fierce

frustrated

fuming

furious

harsh

hatred

hostility

impatience

indignant

irate

jealous

livid

mad

mean

merciless

murderous

outraged

petulant

pushy

rebellious

resentment      resistant          revolted

rude         savage simmering

sizzling

smoldering

spiteful steely        stern

stewing                     stubborn

sullen       vengeful

vicious       violent

volcanic        wicked willful

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

Did you know that animals in the wild don’t suffer from stress while animals in captivity do (this includes domestic animals and our dear pets too!)?

There is also an interesting fact that animals know how to shake stress off after a trauma. Imagine two ducks fighting and right after the duel is finished they will shake profusely and ‘paddle’ away from each other. The lake doesn’t become too small for them, on contrary, they will behave as if nothing happened right after the event – the conflict remains in the past and it’s done with.

Unlike ducks… we, humans, often get stuck in the event where incident created strong emotional response. Attached to the scenario that is no longer happening we keep it alive internally, continuously feeding our psyche with the  images, sounds, and emotional states related to the event. STOP!

You probably think: easier said than done! Just for the fun of it, when you get into an overwhelming emotional response when somebody has ‘stepped on your toes’, repeat a mantra to yourself: “I love you, I forgive you, I’m sorry” You stepped on somebody else’s toes? Mantra is: “I love you, please forgive me, I’m sorry” . Observe your emotional reaction to the mantra.

We are delivering a talk about Somatic Experiencing at Kocoon spa lounge on 10th November, 7.30. Below are the details, call to register.

Room 301, 3/F, North Building, Nali Garden, No.81, Sanlitun North Street on the West side of the street,

Telephone: 010- 5208 6068