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Aug
5

Emotions (Pride) – Thinking – Acting

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - August 5th, 2010

Emotion: Pride – The wish to maintain the status quo. Unwilling to change or move – therefore, the wish to stop others from movement as they might pass us up.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

I’ll just reflect!;  How dare you!;  I knew that;  I know everything;  I know;  I won’t associate with “those kind” of people;  I’ll look like I’m agreeing and to it my way;  I’m better than all of them;  I’m better than you;  I’m in a better place than all of you;  I’m not like them;  I’m right;  I’m smarter than everyone else;  I’m the only one who can do it right;  I’m the only one who can get it done;  I’m the savior/hero;  I’m too busy with important matters to have time for you;  It’s your fault;  Maybe I’ll do it and maybe I won’t;  My way is the only way;  What do tehy know;  What’s wrong with you;  Who do they think they are?  Why is everyone so incompetent;  You don’t belong;  You need me to get it done;

Acting

aloof; arrogant; bigoted; blaming others; boastful; bored; closed; complacent; conceited; detached; disrespectful; distant; dogmatic; egotistical; false humility; gloating; hypocritical; indifferent; know it all; narrow minded; never wrong; opinionated; patronizing; pompous; putting others down; remote; sabotage; sanctimonious; self-absorbed; self-centered; self-important; snobbish; spoiled; stoic; stubborn; stuck-up; talking against others; unforgiving; impenetrable; unreadable; unyielding; withdrawn; walk away;

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional     dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your     emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel  agitated, frustrated or vengeful? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was  a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and    watch it  transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you    are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?

How do you know you are better than all of them? Is it absolutely true that you are the only one in the world who can get things done? How do you know? Who would you  be if you didn’t   believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and    get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply    because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and      accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“A  proud man is always looking down on things and people; and, of course,  as long as you’re looking down, you can’t see something that’s above  you.” C.S. Lewis

Aug
5

Emotions (Anger) – Thinking – Acting

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - August 5th, 2010

Emotion: Anger – The desire to strike out, to hurt and stop the other one, but with hesitation. We might not strike out.


According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Do it my way or else;  Don’t even think of it;  Don’t push me around;  Don’t tell me what to do!;  Drop dead!;  F… off!;  F.. you!;  Fat chance;  Get out of my way;  Get even;  I’ll get them;  I’ll kill you!   I’ll never give in;  I’m not doing anything;  If they don’t listen to me I’ll let them go down the tube;  Me do it your way, not on your life;  Not a chance;  Not on your life;  Now you’ll pay;  Out of my way;  Who do they think they are?;  You better do it my way, or else!

Acting

abrasive; abrupt; abusive; aggressive; attacking; barbarous; belligerent; biting; blinded; bloodthirsty; brooding; brusque; brutal; callous; caustic; cold; crazed; cruel; curt; defiant; demanding; deranged; destructive; discourteous; disrespectful; exacting; ferocious; fierce; gruff; harsh; headstrong; heartless; instigating; intimidating; inflexible; invasive; malevolent; maniacal; merciless; nasty; obstinate; offensive; passive-aggressive; petulant; pigheaded; profane; provoking; punishing; pushy; ravaging; rebellious; resistant; rude; ruthless; sarcastic; savage; spiteful; strife; stubborn; talking about others; uncooperative; unyielding; vengeful; vicious;

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE
Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional    dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your    emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel agitated, frustrated or vengeful? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was  a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and   watch it  transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you    are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think  those thoughts?

How do you know your way is the right way? Is it absolutely true that getting even is the right thing to do? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t   believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and     get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply     because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“Anger  will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in  the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment  are forgotten.” Buddha


Aug
4

Emotions (Lust) – Thinking – Acting

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - August 4th, 2010

Emotion: Lust – The desire for possession – Wanting. The hunger for money – things – people, but with hesitation. We may or may not reach out. There is an underlying sense that we cannot, should not have.


According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

I want… ;  Do it my way;  Don’t stop;  How can I get it?;  I can’t wait;  I have to…;  I like it this way;  I must do it my way;   I must have it;   I need you;  I need them;  I need…;  I want excitement;  I want it all;  I want it now!;  I want more;  I want to know;  I want to figure it out;  I want to understand;  I’m not satisfied;  I’m starving;  It feels so good;  Look at me;  Me, me, me;   My way is the only way;  There won’t be enough for me;  There isn’t enough

Acting

addictive; attention seeking;  chaotic;  compulsive;  covert;  desperate;  devious;  devouring;  driven;  excessive;  exploitive;  extravagant;  fixated; frantic;  frenzied;  hoarding;  impatient;  inconsiderate;  indecent;  lascivious;  lavish;  lecherous;  lewd;  licentious;  manic;  manipulative;  miserly;  obsessive;  out-of-control;  over indulgent;  over-eating;  panting;  predatory;  pushy;  risque;  ruthless;  seductive;  self-centered;  selfish;  uncooperative;  unruly;  vulgar;  wild;  with abandon

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional   dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your   emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel craving, desire or jealousy ? How  does that feel? If this   feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and   watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you   are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think   those thoughts?

How do you know there isn’t enough? Is it absolutely true thatyour way is the only way ? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t  believe  this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and    get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply    because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“Society drives people crazy with lust and calls it advertising.” John Lahr

Aug
2

Emotion (Fear) – Thinking – Action

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - August 2nd, 2010

Emotion: Fear – The desire to strike out but not doing so because we think they will hit us harder. The desire to reach out but not doing it because we think we’ll get hurt.


According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:

Crisis after crisis;  Disaster’s looming and I’ve got to hide;  I can’t let them find me out;  I don’t want anything to change;  I have to get it right or they’ll kill me;  I have to get them before they get me;  I’m not OK;  I’m confused and don’t know what to do, so I can’t do anything;  I’m not enough;  I’m not safe;  I’m trapped, there is no way out;  It’s closing in around me;  It’s so confusing that I just can’t move;  It’s not safe;  It is safer to stay still and not take any chances;  They’re out to get me;  What if I fail?;  What if I get fired?;  What if I get into trouble?;  What if I make a mistake?;  What if they don’t like me?;  What if. . . ?;  What will they think?;  No use, why try;  No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No way, forget about it;  No way out;  Tomorrow;  What’s the use;  Why bother . . .

Acting

agitated; ambivalent;  apologetic;  chaotic;  confused;  cowering;  cringing;  defensive;  disorderly;  distraught;  distrustful;  disturbed;  embarrassed; evasive;  frenzied;  frozen;  hesitant;  hyper-active;  hyper-focused;  hyper-vigilant;  hysterical;  indecisive;  inhibited;  irrational;  lack of clarity;  meek;  mistrustful;  nervous;  no action;  not trusting;  overwhelmed;  panicky;  paralyzed;  paranoid;  procrastination;  quaking;  scared;  secretive;  self-sabotage;  shady;  sheepish;  shock;  shy;  superstitious;  timid;  traumatized;  treble;  tunnel vision; wishy-washy

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself –  how do I feel right now? Use emotional  dictionary from previous  postings if you are not clear about your  emotional state. Feel the  feeling: where in your body do you feel anxious, insecure, unsafe or vulnerable? How  does that feel? If this  feeling was a color what color would it be? Remain with the feeling and  watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your  thoughts true? How can you know that what you  are thinking is absolutely  true? Who would you be if you didn’t think  those thoughts?

How do you know that you are not OK? Is it absolutely true that  you are not safe? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t  believe this was  true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and   get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply   because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and   accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts and patterns that seek attention.

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food improve the quality of thinking.

“FEAR is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real” Neale Donald Walsch

Jul
30

Emotion (Apathy) – Thinking – Action

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 30th, 2010

Emotion: Apathy – Desire is dead because it’s no use. We can’t do anything and no one else can help. We withdraw and play weak so we won’t get hurt.

According to the law of cause and effect:

Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect) (cause) = Action (effect)

Thinking:
I can’t;  I can’t win;   I don’t care;   I don’t count;   I don’t know how;    I don’t matter;   I give up;   I’m doomed;   I’m useless;    I’m worthless;   It’ll never work;   It’s a dead end;   It’s no use;   It’s too late;   It’s too hard;   Let it wait;   No matter what I do, it doesn’t make a difference;  No use, why try;   No way, forget about it;   No way out;   Tomorrow;  What’s the use;   Why bother

Acting
careless;  catatonic;   disassociated;   defeated;   forgetful;   giving up;   inattentive;   indecisive;   indifferent;   lazy;   listless;   negative;   passive;   spaced out;   stuck;   unfocused;   unresponsive;   withdrawn

STOP – CHALLENGE – CHOOSE

Stop: Ask yourself – how do I feel right now? Use emotional dictionary from previous postings if you are not clear about your emotional state. Feel the feeling: where in your body do you feel tired, weak or helpless? How does that feel? If this feeling was a color what color would it be? How does the feeling move in your body – does it start in your stomach and move to your chest? Where does it go next? Remain with the feeling and watch it transform.

Challenge: Are your thoughts true? How can you know that what you are thinking is absolutely true? Who would you be if you didn’t think those thoughts?

How do you know that you can’t? Is it absolutely true that you don’t count? How do you know? Who would you be if you didn’t believe this was true?

Choose: What would you do if you loved yourself for who you are? How would that change the state you are in?

When you are dealing with a negative emotion don’t try and get rid of it, its a valid part of you that wants attention simply because there is an imbalance within, so you have to learn to love and accept it.

Here’s a simple little saying to help you remember – When I love it, I move above it. Mark (Anup) Karlsson

Remember:

Emotions reveal the thoughts

Thoughts are not reality. Thoughts do not define you. You can choose what you think.

Actions speak louder than words (thoughts). Calm your mind and your actions will be more fluid.

Meditation, exercise and healthy food help to improve the quality of thinking.

“Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there’s all the difference  in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible  burdens.” Arthur Gordon

Jul
29

Emotional Dictionary – Peace

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 29th, 2010

Ageless

Awareness

Being

Boundless

Calm

Centered

Complete

Eternal

Free

Fulfilled

Glowing

Light

Oneness

Perfection

Pure

Quiet

Serenity

Space

Still

Timeless

Tranquility

Unlimited

Whole

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

Jul
29

Emotional Dictionary – Acceptance

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 29th, 2010

Abundance   appreciative  BALANCE  BEAUTIFUL

belonging childlike  compassion  considerate delight  elated  embracing EMPATHY  ENRICHED EVERYTHING’S OKAY

FRIENDLY  FULLNESS  GENTLE

glowing gracious  harmonious   harmony  intuitive  in tune

JOYFUL  LOVING  MAGNANIMOUS   MELOW

naturalness nothing to change  open playful   radiant RECEPTIVE  SECURE

soft tender understanding warm well-being WONDER

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

Jul
29

Emotional Dictionary – Courageousness

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 29th, 2010

adventurous   ALERT alive   assured aware  CENTERED  certain CHEERFULclarity COMPASSION  COMPETENT       CONFIDENT

CREATIVE   daring decisive  dynamic   eager enthusiastic   exhilaration exploration flexible  FOCUSED  GIVING HAPPY   honorable

HUMOR I CAN   independent initiative  integrity   invincible  loving LUCID MOTIVATED  non-resistant OPEN optimistic

perpective positive  purposeful RECEPTIVE  RESILIENT   resourceful  responsive     secure  self-suficient sharp   spontaneous

strong SUPPORTIVE   TIRELESS VIGOROUS  VISIONARY    willing zest

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

Jul
29

Emotional Dictionary – Pride

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 29th, 2010

above reproach ALOOF   arrogant  bigoted

BOASTFUL  bored CLEVER CLOSED COMPLACENT

conceited  contemptuous cool  CRITICAL DISDAIN DOGMATIC

FALSE HUMILITY   false virtue   gloating

haughty HOLIER THAN THOU

hypocritical   icy

ISOLATED   JUDGMENTAL

know-it-all

NARROW MINDED

never wrong opinionated    overbearing

PATRONIZING  PIOUS PREJUDICED

presumptuous   righteous  rigid

self absorbed

self satisfied           selfish

SMUG SNOBBISH   SPECIAL

SPOILED

stoic   stubborn  stuck-up

superior UNCOMPROMISING  unfeeling UNFORGIVING

unyielding VAIN

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.

Jul
29

Emotional Dictionary – Anger

Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 29th, 2010

abrasive

aggressive

annoyed

argumentative belligerent                     boiling

brooding

caustic

defiant

demanding

destructive disgust

explosive

fierce

frustrated

fuming

furious

harsh

hatred

hostility

impatience

indignant

irate

jealous

livid

mad

mean

merciless

murderous

outraged

petulant

pushy

rebellious

resentment      resistant          revolted

rude         savage simmering

sizzling

smoldering

spiteful steely        stern

stewing                     stubborn

sullen       vengeful

vicious       violent

volcanic        wicked willful

HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?

FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.

ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST  THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS

FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.