Posted by Dalida Turkovic - August 7th, 2010
Emotion: Peace -I am – I am whole, complete, total unto my Self. Everyone and everything is part of my Self. It is all perfect.
According to the law of cause and effect:
Thought (cause) = Emotion (effect)/ Emotion (cause) = Action (effect)
Thinking:
All is well; Everything is unfolding as it should; I am; It’s just perfect; We are one
Acting
actionless; balanced; cenetered; composed; connection; flawless; imperturbable; in equilibrium; infinite; limitless; perfection; poised; quiet; self-possessed; serenity; spacious; stillness; tranquil; unlimited; whole; witnessing
Remember the acronym AGFLAP-CAP:
Apathy/ Grief/ Fear/ Lust/ Anger/ Pride - Courageousness/ Acceptance/ Peace
and monitor how you shift on the scale of action. After the AGFLAP reactive cycle, CAP brings you to the proactive behavior. Often we mix Apathy with Acceptance, Anger with Courageousness and Pride with Peace.
How can you bring peace within? What are you strategies to remain at peace when others are in conflict (with self or others)? Do you know how to be actionless?
Wu Wei (wúwéi) is an important Daoist concept. It means knowing when to act, taking a natural action, and it can be compared with effortless doing – as trees grow or planets revolve around sun. This action does not have emotion or thought as a trigger, it is natural.
(Wikipedia quote): Wu may be translated as not have or without; Wei may be translated as do, act, serve as, govern or effort. The literal meaning of Wu Wei is “without action” and is often included in the paradox wei wu wei: “action without action” or “effortless doing”. The practice of wu wei and the efficacy of wei wu wei are fundamental tenets in Chinese thought and have been mostly emphasized by the Taoist school. The aim of wu wei is to achieve a state of perfect equilibrium, or alignment with the Tao, and, as a result, obtain an irresistible form of “soft and invisible” power.
There is another less commonly referenced sense of wu wei; “action that does not involve struggle or excessive effort”. In this instance, Wu means “without” and Wei means “effort”. The concept of “effortless action” is a part of Taoist Internal martial arts such as T’ai chi ch’uan, Baguazhang and Xing Yi. It follows that Wu wei complies with the main feature and distinguishing characteristic of Taoism, that of being natural. To apply wu wei to any situation is to take natural action.
“The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither need you do anything but be yourself.”Laozi
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - July 29th, 2010
abandoned abuse accused
anguished ashamed betrayed blue
cheated despair
disappointed distraught Embarrassed forgotten guilty
Heart-broken heartache heartsick
helpless Hurt if only
ignored inadequate inconsolable
It’s not fair
Left out longing loss melancholy
misunderstood mourning neglected
nobody cares nobody loves me
nostalgia
passed over
pity poor me regret rejected remorse
sadness sorrow
Tearful tormented torn
tortured – unhappy - unloved – unwanted
vulnerable
why me?
wounded
HOW ARE YOU FEELING TODAY?
FEELINGS ARE YOUR RESPONSE TO THE REALITY AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME.
ACCEPT YOUR FEELINGS, IF YOU RESIST THEM THEY’LL LAST EVEN LONGER AND CREATE MORE STRESS
FEEL THE FEELINGS AND WATCH THEM TRANSFORM.
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - February 13th, 2010
Have you connected with your heart today?
Posted by Dalida Turkovic - August 1st, 2009
The first rule of focus is ”Wherever you are be there.” Author Unknown
I have two dogs and do my best to take good care of them: I walk them twice a day, feed them, groom them and take them to the vet if they are ill. I also take time to play with them, roll on the floor and throw a ball while my mind storms through the deadlines, phone calls I have to make, dreams I want to fulfill. I do that unconsciously, mind slips into the ‘figuring out’ mode, takes me away into the future or past events and although I am physically present, in reality I am not. Whenever that happens both dogs simply stop playing and retreat, they actually behave as if I am not there.
Did anything similar ever happen to you? Were you ever at a party worried about tomorrow’s meeting and suddenly realize that people just disappeared? Did you ever try to calm your child down but it just doesn’t stop crying and the more you think about the proposal you have to write the more child cries? If the answer is yes, next time you get into the similar situation stop doing whatever you are doing and breathe! Bring yourself to this moment and live it fully because that is what makes you alive. Develop skill of being present (focused, mindful) each and every moment (not only during meditation – bring that state into everything you do) and observe how life unfolds.
Simple technique to bring yourself to the present moment
Place hand on your heart and focus on your breath. Ask yourself: What is the quality of my breath? How deep is it? What is going on in my body in order for that breath to have its full cycle? And what about this breath? And the next?
Further questions to engage yourself in present moment:
What do I see right now?
What do I smell right now?
What do I hear right now?
How do I feel right now? (remain with the feeling even if it is uncomfortable and keep breathing. Observe how feeling ‘travels’ through your body)
The problem that I am thinking of – can I solve it right now?
This thought that I have – is it related to past, present or future? (if it is related to past or future just let it go and pretend to be Scarlet O’Hara from Gone With the Wind – “I’ll think about it tomorrow”)
Dan Millman’s Law of Presence: Time is a paradox stretching between a “past” and “future” that have no reality except in our own minds. The idea of time is a convention of thought and language, a social agreement. Here is the deeper truth: We have only this moment.